True or false: everything you experience is a result of your own truth?
True. What you believe determines what you feel (emotions) and that determines what you do which determines what you get. The things that happen to you (your results) reinforce your belief system and so the cycle continues. This might also be called the self-fulfilling prophecy.
Here is an example: let’s say I believe that people don’t think that I’m good enough for a promotion at work. This makes me feel inferior and when I feel inferior, I feel like I have to prove myself. When I’m trying to prove myself, I over-compensate, I’m not natural, I am faking or pretending to be smarter or better than I am, but when I do this people see through me. They can tell that I am over-compensating which makes them think I lack confidence and when people see that lack of confidence they start to believe that I might be in over my head, which makes them think that I may not be good enough. So the don’t give me the promotion and I end up believing that I am not good enough.
Negative belief about ourselves can rob us of ever reaching our full potential. They paralyze us and keep us from experiencing what God has for us in life. Are you holding onto any of these negative beliefs and accepting them as true?
- I’m unworthy
- I’m unloved
- I’m not understood
- I’m inadequate
- I’m unforgivable
- I’m rejected
- I’m alone
- I’m inferior
- I’m a failure
- I’m not accepted
- I’m not capable
If you are being held captive by any of these negative beliefs, the truth is that there is a way out; you must accept that these beliefs are false. However, this is easier said than done for most of us. Getting rid of these beliefs can even feel impossible on your own. There is one simple truth that will help you: a close relationship with Christ will free you from these negative beliefs. (John 8:32) Christ is the catalyst for change. He can help you with the truth about yourself, just turn to Him. He will show you that none of these beliefs are true.
How might your life change if you knew for a fact that all of the negative self-beliefs were false?
For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus unto good works, which God hath before ordained that we should walk in them. phesians 2:10 KJV
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What about when the negative self belief is not of your own making?
Recently found out my husband was having an extra marital relationship. Trying to save our marriage for sake of our 3 month old daughter.
All I want to do is phone the husband of the other woman. Email their work colleagues. Why should I be the one suffering? Is it not right to speak the truth and then be able to get rid of the negativity?
Me telling the truth will hurt loads of people. Would God see me as victim of sin or the sinner?
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Dear Louisa,
I am sorry to hear that you are going through this. I can only imagine the negative self-belief that you may be experiencing right now. The important thing to know that that your worth comes from God and He loves you more than you know.
The difficulty with your husband right now is handling it in a Biblical way so that others aren’t hurt by your actions. Have you already confronted him? Has he admitted it? Is he remorseful and asking for your forgiveness? Or does he not want to end the affair? There is so much more to your story that I need to understand to help you with the decisions you are facing.
The only thoughts I will leave you with are… “Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord” (Romans 12:19) and “be sure your sins will find you out” (Numbers 32:23). In due time, God will teach your husband the lesson he needs and he will pay for his sins and the hurt he has caused you and others; and God will also reveal the sin to the right people, just like He revealed it to you. I would encourage you to let God handle the situation, unless your husband is denying the affair, if that is the case, you may need to reveal it to the spouse of the other woman.
I will pray for you this morning. Hang in there and call on the Lord to heal you and your marriage. All things are possible with Him.
In Christ,
Christine
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Hi Louisa, I just wanted to check on you since you sent this message. It has been about a year, I pray that the Lord has been healing you.
Christine
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