Are You Set in Your Ways?

You have probably heard the saying, “He’s set in his ways,” meaning it is not likely he (or she) is going to change the way they act in certain instances. The “ways” are habits, attitudes, and responses that aren’t likely to change without a very powerful motivation or without some sort of an encounter with…

Who Has The Reins?

Yesterday I wrote about how a sweet, calm temperament and a soft word spoken can help us avoid regrets and prevent strife in our lives. Without a doubt, this ability to control your words and tone comes only with wisdom and maturity. In the book of James chapter 3, he writes about the real difficulty…

Christ Centered Counseling

Several years ago, one of my friends went through a devastating divorce and lost custody battle for her 5-year old. She was completely broken at the time, fragile in every sense, my heart truly went out to her. It was as if she could no longer think logically. Jaded and consumed with bitterness she began to lose everything…

Are you Critical of Others?

Without doubt every one of us has said something we wish we hadn’t spoken. I can think of hundreds of times over my life that I wish I would have just kept my mouth shut. The problem is that once you have said something hurtful, critical, or judgmental, it can’t be taken back. Are you are someone…

Are you Serving Leftovers?

Take notice. Are you giving your best to your colleagues, teachers, students, acquaintances, and/or employers and giving a lesser version of yourself to your loved ones? Are you cheerful, energetic, and respectful at work, capable of managing your emotions even when you face someone who is rude, frustrated, or stressed? Yet, when you get home, you let your…

One Reason People Disengage from Relationships

I find that in almost every case, conversations consist of someone talking and the other person wait for their turn to talk. Rather than just listening; they are waiting to share their own experience, their own opinion, or their advice (let me tell you what I would do…). Amazingly enough, most people aren’t even aware…

Are You an Angry Fool?

“Be not hasty in thy spirit to be angry: for anger resteth in the bosom of fools.” Ecclesiastes 7:9 After reading my Bible this morning, I thought… “Luckily I’m a fairly levelheaded person and I don’t really experience anger.” But as I searched my own heart, I realized that I do deal with variations of…